Sometimes you may ask yourself, “Do I have an anger issue?” This question is certainly very thought provoking. Not all people express their anger in destructive ways. But when you harm yourself or others, and cause others to suffer because of your anger, you can be assured that your anger is a problem.
Verbal Abuse
The faces of anger also indicates if you have an anger issue. You know when it is a problem if you lose your mind for the simplest reasons and if you find yourself easily resorting to verbal abuse or expletives. Verbal abuse is referred to as name-calling, screaming, and yelling, threatening others, and sarcasm. Verbal abuse, importantly, is deflating to the ego and this is not a healthy way to express yourself to others if you want their respect.
Do I Have An Anger Issue?
Such action explained earlier can lead anger into becoming habitual; where it almost becomes second nature to you. Then most people use this habitual nature as an excuse. The excuse that this is just your personality or how you handle things is unacceptable, because such an anger can cause you great grief and, inevitably, ill health. It can also lead to physical injury or death of one or both of the parties in the argument.
Recognizing The Dangers of Expressed Anger
Most times when anger is expressed there is much hate and resentment presiding over households, and even work places. Though this type of anger may seem mild, it is hardly productive. You can lose your job and or find your relationship with your family strained. For most persons who carry deep anger, suicide, regrettably, is a common method for expressing this type of hatred.
These seemingly minor feeling may evolve into deep hatred against even the unsuspecting. Simple bouts of anger can lead you to expressing your anger in unwanted moments, such as while you are driving or even on an airplane. (Not the best of places to be angry!)
Anger as you can see is expressed in many ways. You can identify anger in verbal abuse and physical violence, for example a couple shouting at each other; calling each other names in public or fighting after school or in a bar. In these situations, people are expressing anger management problems
Random acts of violence can be accounted for uncontrolled anger and poor anger management skills. This is why, if you identify yourself as having an anger management issue you need to learn to deal with it before it gets out of hand, or before someone becomes a victim of violence.
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Addressing this issue can begin by you doing some introspection. I also suggest the simple Anger Test that is on this site. Please, answer these questions truthfully. Honesty will certainly carry you a long way.
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Articles in this series:
That disturbing emotion called Anger
Is there such a thing as healthy anger
Do I have anger issues
Simple anger test
Facial displays of anger
Linking diet and antisocial behaviour
Methods and techniques of Anger Management
What is anger management
Quenching anger before it becomes destructive
Coping with the roadblocks of life
What triggers your anger bug
Teaching children anger management skills
When others are mad at you
“Stop anger, be happy”
“A Poison Tree” by William Blake